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7 essentials for finding soul mates
Sponsored by ABC Family's Lucky 7
Don't miss "Lucky 7," premiering Sunday, July 20, 2003 at 8pm EST/PST.
Amy is fanatical about lists. Every day she makes a new one, and every day she is sure to complete it. But one list hangs over her head. Years earlier her mother gave her a list that predicted how her life would turn out; how she would be class president, travel abroad and become a lawyer. But mostly the list predicted love for Amy — six loves in, fact culminating in the one that sticks... Lucky 7. Sure enough, Amy meets the guy of her dreams. He's handsome, smart and successful. He's perfect in every way except for one minor detail. He's number six.
Determined to have him as her number seven, Amy hatches a plan to quickly become involved with someone else and thus slide her dream man into the seventh slot. But can fate be tempted or is her predetermined destiny the true path to love?
Whatever you believe, there's probably a list of qualities you find essential in a soul mate.
What do you want in a soul mate?
To date successfully and manage your relationships effectively, you must have a clear vision of yourself and others. One popular method to define that vision is to create a list of the qualities you want in a soul mate — a list that gives you a perfect guideline to use for your own self-inventory.
1. Values
You want someone you can believe in, someone you can trust. Can you count on him to do what he says? Can you trust her to do what's right and always be there? What about you? These shared values form the basis of a lasting relationship.
2. Emotional health and maturity
To have a lasting relationship, it's important for both people to be emotionally healthy and mature. Does he have a positive attitude? Does she like herself? What about you? When you and your mate are at peace with yourselves, you won't need others to make you happy.
3. Financial responsibility
No, money can't buy love, but you'd be amazed how much trouble financial irresponsibility can cause. Does his career provide a lifestyle you're comfortable with? Do she handle her money wisely? What about you? Think about this one carefully.
4. Physical appearance and fitness
We all want someone to whom we're physically attracted, and we want someone to be physically attracted to us. Does she take time to care for her appearance? Does he eat and exercise to stay fit? What about you? Remember that first impressions count!
5. Communication skills
Lasting partnerships depend on open communication that allows both people to share their thoughts, concerns and dreams. Is she assertive in communicating her thoughts? Does he shrink from confrontation? What about you? You want someone who's willing to develop good listening and communication skills.
6. Confidence
Confident people radiate a glow that inevitably attracts us. Does he have strong self-esteem? Has she taken responsibility for her own life? Even the most tender of partners should bring strength to a relationship.
7. Marriage and sex
Everyone does not share the same idea of marriage. The big questions to address are: What do you and your mate expect from marriage and sex? Is he or she looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy in friendship, communication and sex?
One of the quickest and surest ways to find your "Lucky 7" is to become your own best friend and soul mate.
Be sure to tune in to the original romantic comedy "Lucky 7," premiering Sunday, July 20, 2003 at 8pm EST/PST.
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